Update: Drama-Less Cargo

As a follow-up to my most recent post about cargo, I had a conversation with a dear friend of mine about how some relationships can quickly become nothing short of a drama-filled cesspool of anguish and tears. We all bring every relationship we've ever had, not to mention every life experience, into our current relationship. That's understandable and to be expected. What's not comprehensible to me is how we, including myself, can sometimes allow ourselves to wallow in the mire, knowing we need to simply let the vultures go.

Well, that brings me to my BIG NEWS! I did it. I fed the man who keeps me up at night for the last time. I am choosing a different life for myself. I may lose out on something great in the future, but the future is not going to keep me from the present any longer. I may be giving up a piece of my heart, but I'm no longer giving up my soul, too. My Caribbean boyfriend would be so proud of me. I wish and hope for the same for my dear friend.

So, in conclusion, cargo isn't always necessarily bad. In actuality, it may contribute greatly to the person standing in front of you, the one you've become quite smitten with, or at least interested in getting to know better, on a more intimate level. The cargo may not be drama-free, but the relationship can be.

And in memory of all those sleepless nights, I dedicate The Scientist by Coldplay, a band that has always seen the passion behind the tears.